Identity
- S. A. Gibbs
- Jan 5, 2017
- 2 min read
Do you ever feel torn between the image you feel you have to portray and who you really are? Yes, I get it; if people won’t accept you for whom you are then hasta la vista baby! In reality, it’s not that simple. For some, our persona may be contrived but for others it’s a byproduct of years of parental, marital and social expectations. At some point you can get so caught up in building and protecting your external shell that you forget what lies beneath that exterior. To jettison the “fake” you and expose the true you can take courage.
Why is it so difficult at times to be true to yourself and others? Why is it that for some of us, our sense of self worth is tied up in how others accept us? Are the accolades and looks of adoration that important? Are we afraid that those who supposedly love us will criticize us when we show a different side, a new path, and our deepest dreams? Will our employer look down on us if we choose not to walk in the same direction as others; express opinions that deviate from the group talk, or suggest different business ideas than the C-Suite advances? Has conformity become our survival technique? If so, the prognosis is not good for the human race.
When you progress through your second phase in life, one of two things will happen. The so-called obstacles to authenticity and being who you are become so high that you cower through the remainder of your life, growing increasingly angry with yourself and others. Or, your filters and needs for affirmation diminish in importance and value and you emerge into something new and exciting. I see the first path too often among my fellow brethren, including me. It’s time we break from traditions and embark on a new path, the right path. Will it be easy, probably not? But it’s necessary for our continued growth and happiness. If along your path you encounter negativity and criticism, smile and wave. It doesn’t matter; it’s your path.
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